Are You a “Drag” Queen?

By: Donna Martin

1. You might be a drag queen if you constantly complain about your spouse’s annoying habits.

2. You might be a drag queen if you find yourself always criticizing your spouse in front of your children and other people.

3.  You might be a drag queen if you compare your spouse to other people’s spouses.

4.  You might be a drag queen if you do not listen to your spouse.

5.  You might be a drag queen if you fail to encourage your spouse.

6.  You might be a drag queen if you are too busy to take an interest in your spouse’s life and work.

7.  You might be a drag queen if you bark orders at your spouse instead of asking kindly to do something for you.

8.  You might be a drag queen if you often complain about and criticize your in-laws.

9.  You might be a drag queen if you put your desires and interests above those of your spouse.

10.  You might be a drag queen if you are always discontent with what you have and complaining because you want more.

Don’t be a drag queen and drag down your spouse.  Be the king or queen of encouragement, of love, and of respect.  Be your spouse’s biggest cheerleader.

When you are tempted to complain or “drag” your spouse down, remember the following verses.

 “Therefore encourage one another and build one another up.” (1 Thessalonians 5:11 NIV)

“Each of you should look not only to your own interest, but also to the interests of others.  Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 2:4-5 NIV)

“The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish tears hers down.” (Proverbs 14:1 NIV)

“A quarrelsome wife is as annoying as constant dripping on a rainy day.” (Proverbs 27:15. New Living Translation)

“Husbands, be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect.” 1 Peter 3:7 (NIV)

“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:32 NIV)

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